I have a few reminders for anyone who is reading…
You are your own person.
You have your own thoughts.
You have your own feelings.
You have your own scent.
You have your own gait.
You have your own darkness.
You have your own dreams.
You have your own past.
You have your own future.
You have your own choices.
You have your own pet peeves.
You have your own interests.
You have your own mouth. Your own eyes. Your own mind.
In a society obsessed with the idea of "owning" things, why would you ever cede those most precious, intrinsic assets to the fleeting and twisted interests of another? After all, what is more valuable than an irreplaceable gem that has been worn to it's unique shape by trial and time?
It seems simple, yet I find myself constantly having to be reminded of it. It is true--life goes on! And if you don't jump on and keep moving forward with it, you are doing yourself a major disservice.
I am completely stuck in the past. I obsess about what could have been or what I should have done or how I can make things now like they were before.
You seriously HAVE to keep going. Or else everyone and everything else will pass you by and you'll be floundering in the past--alone.
Of course, it's easier said than done, and I am no expert on the matter. In fact, I am just trying to figure out how to carry on myself. But I do have a few ideas:
Challenge yourself. Set a goal. Do something that you have to work towards. For example, I have a race that I am going to run later this month. So, I am preparing for that.
Let it go. Remember these things: if something is meant to happen, it will, and everything happens for a reason. No matter how much hurt you have darkening your past, you can learn from your mistakes--and the mistakes of others--to make better your future. Accept what has been, and move on. You cannot change the past. Every day brings with it a million opportunities--don't miss out on them because you are dwelling on the past.
Know what is ahead of you. Sometimes, you just need to be reminded of the path that you are on and what it leads to. What keeps me going is knowing that one day, I will be a doctor. It helps to put things into perspective when you step back and see the big picture.
Life is too short to waste on the petty issues of our past. Don't let yourself fall into that trap.